There’s no such thing as bad for you.

It took me a long time to learn that. I used to be one of those guys labeling things left and right; this is “good for you” or that’s “bad for you.” I sounded like a preacher who got the gist of the Bible but missed the point entirely.

The good news is, there’s only where you wanna go and who you wanna be and what it’s going to take to get you there. No guilt for giving into bad, no shame for failing, no condemnation for missing the mark. Just a simple question without judgment:

“What are my goals and will this help me reach them?”

If the answer is yes, then do it. If it’s no, then don’t.

Is that chocolate cake going to help you lose that 30-pounds? Probably not. Leave it at that and move on. But if you still decide to have a piece or two, don’t beat yourself up. Examine why it is you made one choice over another — Were you hungry from missing lunch? Do you need to keep sweet treats out of the house? Are you drinking enough water? — then adjust.

It may sound like semantics at first, it may even seem like some new age mumbo-jumbo for sensitive types. Until you try it and discover how much easier it is to make decisions that reach your goal than it is to make choices to avoid the “bad.”